Best relationship advice I've gathered (so far): Part 2

This is the second part of a two-part series about the best relationship advice I've gathered so far. You can read part one here.

I wasn't kidding when I said I pummelled my poor coworker with marriage advice...

Take a look at what else I had to say. After the jump, that is.

Poor, sweet girl. She didn't even know what she was in for...











Don’t make divorce an option

That's right. We're getting more serious today. Buckle up, folks.

I remember reading an interview with Will Smith where he said that he and his wife, Jada Pinkett Smith, chose to remove divorce as an option in their marriage. (Here's a recap of it.)

This is a tricky point. Sometimes, divorce is necessary to ensure the safety and wellbeing of a spouse and/or children. Lately, it seems that more and more couples split because it’s easier than dealing with the hard stuff and the relational junk they’ve accumulated over time.

Early on, I resolved to never threaten Hubs with divorce or leave our house during a heated argument.  If anything, I affirm that I am in this marriage for the long haul. (And, depending on the day and time, that may be more frightening than a divorce. Haha.)

In two years of marriage, we’ve hit ugly rocky patches and I’m proud to say that we made it through (still happy) and ended up stronger (and happier) than we were before.

Laugh

I love laughing. I love making people laugh.

Most of the times, Hubs groans at my jokes – he’s my toughest critic – but we’re pretty good at making each other laugh. Or finding things to make us laugh. If we're desperate, we turn on Netflix and watch a couple of old SNL episodes or hunt for humorous things online.

Life is serious enough. Have fun. Laugh together.

Don’t half-ass it.

Sorry, mom. I know I could use a different word, but this one makes my point well.

It feels safer to keep a SigOth at a distance. After all, there's less risk and fewer chances of getting your heart smashed into billions of tiny pieces. Having been on the receiving end of a few "It's not me, it's you" conversations, I know it hurts.

But, even still, wouldn't you prefer to know that you gave 100 percent?

Let loose and love that SigOth with your whole heart. If there are things that hold you back from whole-heartedly loving him or her, find help to start healing.

No matter what the outcome, just make sure you gave it 100 percent. No regrets.